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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:32:21 -0400</pubDate>
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	<title>Cheap Divorce Lawyers</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:32:21 -0400</pubDate>
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	<description><![CDATA[Divorce lawyers are usually those lawyers that deal with the family law. They are specialized in all areas of family matters and can provide sound legal counsel when approached. It is usual (as well as safer) for both parties to use different divorce lawyers to deal with the proceedings.
Checking through the yellow pages would produce quite a list of lawyers practicing family law. However, the best kinds are divorce lawyers who are most well known by word of mouth. Browsing the Internet is another option to look for a good divorce lawyer. Many websites help customers locate a good practicing family law lawyer in a specific area. Of course, locating a divorce lawyer through the state bar association is an always available method for those looking for accredited lawyers working for the government.
Available online is a lot of information regarding the divorce proceedings. This can be of a big help if either party is looking for a cheap divorce. It is possible to get cheap divorce if there is no contest from either party or no other litigation with regards to child custody, and things like property rights. Knowing all the rules and divorce laws can reduce the lawyer expenses while ensuring uncomplicated settlement between both the parties as per the state divorce laws. All such information is available online and can be retrieved with minimum effort. Online lawyers are available to help in cases where an online divorce service is entertained due to lower cost. Paperwork obviously is minimal since everything is online and the best part is that it&rsquo;s all completely legal!
It is important to note that cheap online divorces are only suitable for those who wish to separate without any lingering issues pending between them. No-fault divorces are usually considered cheaper. A &lsquo;no fault&rsquo; divorce happens when both parties agree to separate peacefully.
Available online are websites that work as referral services to a number of lawyers willing to work cheap. Most of these websites provide free forms to start the divorce proceedings along with legal support at a considerably low cost. However, cheap divorces are not for those who require a lot of settlements prior to the dissolution of the marriage such as property, settlements, children, and pet custody. This is important to note since divorce decrees are final and cannot be reopened or changed at a later stage.]]></description>
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	<title>Divorce And Family Law</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:32:00 -0400</pubDate>
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	<description><![CDATA[Divorce is one aspect of family law. Family law deals with all the family related issues such as adoption, prenuptial agreements, marriage, divorce, separation, legal separation, annulment, division of the property accumulated during the marriage, alimony, negotiation, domestic violence, adjudication, child custody and support, child abduction, kidnapping or child seizure, emancipation, abuse in the marriage, parental rights, paternity, juvenile, felonies etc., and many such cases related to family. Other than this they also deal with regular cases relating to criminal laws, property related laws, probation law, trusts etc. However, majority of the cases that come to family lawyers are the divorce, separation, abuse or child custody cases. In simpler words, all the domestic litigation cases are filed under the family law.
Divorce is one aspect of family law and so is to be filed in the family law court. Many legal companies specialize in providing advice for family related issues, most common being separation, divorce and child custody and support. Approaching these companies would be advantageous in messy divorce cases. They would be able to handle with expertise all the aspects of divorce and afterward.
Lawyers and attorneys practicing family law are the best with more experience than qualifications. It is amazing how much documentation and negotiation is expected when taking care of a family related case. Along with this the lawyers must be able to support the party professionally, emotionally and morally all the while helping in separating the client from the spouse and in some instances from the children. Also, the lawyers dealing with the family law cases must be aware of the laws in that particular state as family law differs in each state. An experienced and qualified lawyer would be able to make a divorce case less painful and a lot quicker. Lawyers who are experienced in family law and handle all the necessary documentation for the same are also well versed in the divorce proceedings related documentation.
Family law attorneys charge the fee depending on the type of case. In case of divorce, the price can range depending on whether the parties have still some issues pending between them such as property division, child custody, support etc., Most attorney charge either an hourly fee or a flat rate after the case is filed and the court accepts the divorce. However, the best kind of attorneys charge by the hour as there would be less scope of getting fleeced later on after getting a big settlement or alimony from the spouse. These hourly rates can vary depending on the area or state where the case is to be held. Of course, a lawyer in New York, Beverly Hills or Los Angeles would be expected to charge a lot more than a lawyer from a small place in Iowa! Also, it is a usual practice for the attorneys to charge a retainer, as is the case with regular lawyers practicing in other fields of law. If unable to bear the retainer charges, the court can make the spouse bear the retainer charges when the court is requested for counsel fee pedente lite. Pedente lite is a court order for taking financial care of a low income spouse while court proceedings are ongoing.]]></description>
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	<title>How to Behave in Divorce Court</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:31:37 -0400</pubDate>
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	<description><![CDATA[If you or your spouse are unable to agree on the terms of your divorce, everything will be decided by a judge in a final court trial. You have a right to request a jury trial. Most people are familiar with jury trials - where a jury of citizens from your community will decide the issues. But family law courts are overcrowded and overworked. While a jury trial is your right to request, asking for one will give the judge a negative impression of you before your case ever begins. In many states, including Florida, the &ldquo;bench trial&rdquo; is the trial of choice for a divorce case. A bench trial has no jury. The judge serves as the jury and also serves as the judge. The bench trial concentrates all the decision making power in one person, the judge. So in a typical divorce, the judge is the most important person in your life. So it is best to always &quot;play to the judge&quot; throughout your case.
The vast majority of judges are intelligent, compassionate, and concerned with doing the right thing. But judges are human and you must guide your behavior in, and out of court, by how you may appear to another person. From the start of your divorce to the final judgment (and possibly beyond) you must take &quot;the high road.&quot; This means you should act rational and with integrity. Don&rsquo;t act up, or do anything the judge may use in a decision to punish you.
Always tell the truth and do what you promise to do. If your actions don't match your words, a judge will pick up on that. Be the person everyone admires throughout your divorce and the judge will pick up on that as well. A judge will frequently give the benefit of the doubt to a person that appears to be rational and honest. Further, a judge that gives you the benefit of the doubt will go out of his or her way to do the right thing.
However, you must be aware that as human beings, judges can act unpredictably. You may get a certain ruling because the judge &quot;woke up on the wrong side of the bed&quot; that day and you looked like the bad-guy in court. Again, you will always come out best if you maintain a squeaky clean image. During your hearing, avoid appearances of instability. Even if you don't speak during your trial, the judge is probably looking at and evaluating you.
Don't:
&bull; interrupt your attorney every 3 minutes
&bull; glare at your spouse or the opposing attorney
&bull; speak directly to the other party or attorney
&bull; speak to the judge if you have an attorney - unless asked to
&bull; furiously write notes in a compulsive-looking manner
&bull; wear revealing or dirty clothing
The rules strictly prohibit any communication with the judge outside the presence of the other party. So do not attempt to speak to the judge in private. Letters to the judge are also prohibited. All communications with the judge must be conducted in the presence of the opposing party. And in practice, any communications must be done at a mutually arranged hearing in front of the judge. Finally, always be aware your actions and words are being measured and analyzed by a stranger. But in this case, the stranger is a judge and has power over your life and your divorce.]]></description>
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	<title>Divorce Prevention - A Test for the Individual</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:31:06 -0400</pubDate>
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	<description><![CDATA[As most married couples know, there are natural ups and downs in every relationship, this article does not discuss the regular every day stress related fights and arguments between couples but a more serious situation where both partners are seriously considering divorce or are even at a point of starting a divorce procedure.
Some people do not believe that a broken marriage can be saved, I do not think that this is true, but then again I don&rsquo;t think that anything is impossible, we all know numerous examples of people who have achieved incredible things, sometimes even in desperate situations, so I believe that we humans are capable of almost anything, and I definitely think that saving a marriage or relationship, and preventing a divorce are possible.
The first step in preventing an upcoming divorce is to strengthen the individual, this means that each of the partners needs to go into a phase of self healing and self rebuilding, it is this stage that will have the most effect on the way the partners communicate in the near future. This is the reason that the process of rebuilding your individuality is important, its basically the way that you will position yourself in front of your partner, and it will allow you to reshape your character and the way your partner looks at you.
This is why the first real step should be rebuilding ones inner strength and power, to redefine anything that is of importance to you life, and decide that you are your own person, that whatever may happen to you, successful or failing to save you marriage or anything else you set out to do, you will be determined to be happy, and healthy in your life, that the source of happiness and joy is exterior to relationships and accessible to everyone at any time, this kind of positive thinking will bring results once you believe in it and practice it daily, even a few times a day.
It may sound strange to you at this point, but this is the most important thing you can do for yourself at the moment, your partner is drifting away, and the last thing you want to project is a feeling of desperate need and dependency, this is probably a source of trouble in your relationship anyway, the work should focus on your own, independent happiness, as you work on that and take the time to reflect on the things that are your absolute top priority you will notice that this inner strength can help you reshape not only your character but also your relationships.
Another benefit from this inner self focus is dedicating your thought power and motivation towards getting better, towards happiness, joy and health. The danger of letting the power of the breakup and upcoming divorce events drag you down and obscure your mind from any positive thought and progress is what you should avoid, and what better way to do that than focus on getting better, stronger and healthier?
A good relationship is comprised of two, healthy and happy partners, try and remember this as you work to strengthen your inner self. Good luck.]]></description>
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	<title>What A Divorce Lawyer Is Going To Do For You</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:30:43 -0400</pubDate>
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	<description><![CDATA[Getting a divorce is not something anyone looks forward to and it is certainly not something that we plan for when we get married. Unfortunately divorce is a reality for many people in many different situations. If you are getting a divorce or even just considering it then you need to be sure to choose the right divorce lawyer.
You will find many a divorce lawyer in your area but be aware that not all of them are as good as others. You need to have the best divorce lawyer that you can afford when it comes to your divorce. If you don't you could end up paying much more than you though and I am not talking about the divorce lawyer fees. I am talking settlement or even alimony or palimony. Then there is custody to consider if you have children. So take care with your divorce lawyer choice.
When you are trying to get a divorce your divorce lawyer is going to petition the courts to get your marriage dissolved. This means coming to an agreement in terms of all property and money that you as a couple have had possession of. There are several grounds for divorce and your divorce lawyer will help you to choose the grounds that suit your particular situation the best. You will have the choice of adultery, time apart, unreasonable behavior and sometimes even fraud or irreconcilable differences are the way to go. Bottom line is that you should never make any important decisions concerning your divorce without first talking things over with your divorce lawyer. Your divorce lawyer is the professional who has the experience that will help you through this trying time.
What will your divorce lawyer be doing all of the time they are working for you? Your divorce lawyer will spend most of his or her time working on the distribution of conjugal property. How your property is divided will depend on a couple of things. Some of these things will be how much there is to begin with and how much belonged to whom before the marriage, the length of the marriage and the place in which you live. Every country, even every state has its own rules concerning the distribution of property and only your divorce lawyer will be able to help you make all of the right decisions.
Your divorce lawyer is considered to be your legal representation. This means that this divorce lawyer is the person who will often speak for you in court and out of court. Your divorce lawyer needs to be present at every meeting that you have with your spouse&rsquo;s lawyer or your spouse. Never talk about the case without your divorce lawyer being present and on hand. You never know what you could say that could jeopardize your divorce case, it is far better to be safe than sorry.]]></description>
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	<title>Divorce Attorneys</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:30:15 -0400</pubDate>
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	<description><![CDATA[As with any legal process, the help of a competent and skilled lawyer is vital. This is because a good lawyer can get the best results for their clients. In divorce proceedings, this principle also applies as divorce can be very painful and complicated, which is why there is a need for a lawyer that can help mitigate more pain and complexities through excellent legal advice and good skills. However, getting a good lawyer can be very challenging because apart from the fact that there are a lot of lawyers out there, finding a lawyer that you think can best help you may also require that you would have to talk to a lot of them. However, there is one effective way of &ldquo;shopping&rdquo; for a lawyer, which can give you the assurance that you would be able to get a lawyer that can really help you with your divorce.
Shopping for a lawyer through referrals
One of the best, proven ways to find a good divorce lawyer is to ask a trusted friend or relative who has had a good experience with a good divorce lawyer. This is because by being able to have a feel of how a lawyer works through the first hand accounts of your friend or relative, you would be able to judge right away if their lawyer is the one who can help you. However, you should not just base your decision on their experiences, as you also need to check out the lawyer yourself.
Once you have decided on a number of lawyers that you may be interested in getting, you can now start calling their offices. One of the first things you should ask is the cost of his services, as this can help you eliminate the lawyers who may charge more than you can afford. You can expect to be quoted a rate of $50 to $200 per hour of service. In addition to calling, you may also opt to go to their offices personally so you can get a feel of how the firm or the lawyer would take care of you and your interests.
A divorce is a legal process, and as such, you would need to get good legal advice during the process, which you can get from a divorce lawyer. One of the best ways to find a lawyer is through a trusted friend or relative who may refer you to a good divorce lawyer. This together with doing your own canvassing can help you find the right lawyer for your needs.]]></description>
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	<title>What You Need To Know About Divorce</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:29:55 -0400</pubDate>
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	<description><![CDATA[Going through a divorce or separation is not only painful, but it is a complicated process as well. This is because in most cases, the process of divorce or legal separation boils down to a battle regarding income and assets. As a result, the process is won by the party who employed the right strategy and planning when it comes to the separation of the assets, and the party that did not do his homework is left with huge alimony payments and without a house.
However, this does not mean that a person who goes through a divorce process should always think of sneaky ways to get more than the other party. Instead, this stresses the fact that there is a need to undergo a process of preparation and planning when it comes to the process of dividing the assets to make the process more bearable. Below is a guide on how a person can &ldquo;better&rdquo; prepare for divorce proceedings.
Getting the right lawyer
Divorce is a legal process, and as such, you need to get a lawyer that will represent your interests and who could provide you with good legal advice. For divorce proceedings, the lawyer that is usually contacted is a family or a domestic lawyer. These lawyers have vast experience with regard to divorce proceedings and they are competent with the needed maneuvers that need to be employed to protect the interests of their clients. Given this, it is important to get the help of a competent, skilled divorce lawyer.
Other preparations
On the part of the parties in a divorce, there are some steps they can take in addition to what their lawyers can do for them. One of this is being able to obtain all relevant documents about their finances, which is a very important step since it can provide the information that is needed to reach a settlement. One of these documents includes past income tax returns, which can easily be obtained from the IRS. Parties should also be able to outline the history of their marriage as this can provide their lawyers with the necessary information in addressing issues like fault, the custody of the children and the appropriate support to be provided. This does not only help your lawyer prepare better for the proceedings, but is can also save the parties both time and money.
Going through a divorce is never easy, as it can be both a painful and complex process. However, there are some steps that parties to a divorce can take, such as obtaining all the relevant financial documents that help both the lawyers and the parties to &ldquo;prepare&rdquo; for the battle ahead.]]></description>
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	<title>Should You Have An Attorney For A Divorce?</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:29:29 -0400</pubDate>
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	<description><![CDATA[If you are thinking about a divorce or your spouse has already filed for a divorce, it is a good idea to get an attorney. This is something that you should do to protect yourself. You will have a lot of questions and you will defiantly need to have answers. You need to be made aware of all the possible outcomes and do what you need to in order to protect your future.
There is always the option of representing yourself in a divorce proceeding. However, this is not always the recommendation. If there are serious questions involved like children or assets, it is better to have the assistance of an attorney. The attorney can represent only one of the parities involved. If you are not able to afford an attorney, the judge may seek assistance for you from your spouse.
One reason to get an attorney for a divorce proceeding is because there may be spousal support involved. This is called alimony. Depending on the length of time you were married, the age and health of the parties involved, and the ability for one of the parties to earn income and maintain the marital standard of living, the court may order support paid by one spouse to another. This is different question from child support.
Spousal support can be for a limited time period or for an indefinite period depending on the circumstances. It can be reviewed if there is a significant change in the circumstances of either the former spouse. If the spousal support question is waived, then the party giving up the support may not ever come back to ask the court to award it again.
You may also want to have an attorney to protect pensions and retirement accounts. Pensions and retirement are marital property and it can be divided in a divorce. They can be given a present value based on the kind of pension and the parties&rsquo; rights to receive an income from that pension. Usually the court system is fair in this decision, but an attorney will fight for your rights and make sure that your side of the fight is heard.
If you are not happy with the attorney that you have hired, you should defiantly talk to them about it. Explain your case and make them understand why you are not happy with their work. If you cannot work out the situation with your attorney, you do have the right to find another attorney at any point in the game.]]></description>
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	<title>Keeping Positive During a Divorce</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:29:08 -0400</pubDate>
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	<description><![CDATA[If you are someone that is facing a divorce, you may be feeling very depressed or emotionally in distress. These feelings are very normal. You cannot predict what is going to happen when you get married. Some marriages work and others do not. It is important to understand that this is not the end of the world and things like this happen all the time.
You are not a bad person because you are getting a divorce. If you and your spouse cannot longer get along, there is no reason to live together in a situation that makes you unhappy. You need to worry about your future and the well being of yourself and your children if any. Sometimes a divorce can be avoided with the right consoling and other times, there is just no hope.
You have to keep positive when you are going through a divorce. You cannot let yourself be taken down by what is happening around you. If you are being accused of untruthful accusations, you have to keep strong so that you can defend your name and your reputation.
Do not give up. You have to be able to fight for what you think is right until the end. If you are determined to get something that is rightfully yours, you need to stand up for it. Getting what you want in a divorce is not always possible, but you do have to keep up a good fight for it. You have to make sure that you are doing this so that you can keep up your positive attitude about what it going on.
Keep yourself surrounded by others that are positive as well. Keeping your friends and family around you is important. You need to keep having fun and laughing when you can. This will keep you in a positive atmosphere and keep you ready for what is ahead.
Once the divorce is over and done with no matter what the outcome, you have to be ready to go on with your life. You need to be ready to get on with your future and to make your dreams come true. Your life is not over even if you think that it is. There are always second chances and you deserve to have one. Your time will come for love again and if it does not, you will know that you are better off without the other spouse. You can make it on your own and have a good life.]]></description>
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	<title>How to Protect Yourself from Divorce</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:28:49 -0400</pubDate>
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	<description><![CDATA[When you learn that you are going to be getting divorced, it may be have been coming for a long time or it may come as a complete surprise. Either way, there are certain things that you can do for yourself, your children, and your finances. This does not mean that you have to take all of your bank accounts and all that you have and wipe them out.
You have to take the responsible interests throughout the marriage so that you can protect yourself and all that you before and after if the marriage ever dissolves. There are ways that you can act reasonably while you are protecting your interests. These are only precautions that you will need to take care of if the divorce is not being ended amicably.
Depending on how well you and your spouse can get along at the time of the divorce, you may choose not to act on some of the suggestions that are given. You may decide that you and your spouse can work arrangements for everything without arguing. Whenever possible, try and make everything go as well and as easy as you can.
You should always get an attorney when you are heading towards divorce. They will make sure that you are taking the necessary precautions so that you can protect what you have and all the assets you have accumulated during the marriage.
Try and protect all of your own personal property that you have accumulated over the years. You need to move papers and documents so that you are the only one that knows where they are. If you must present them at a court hearing then you must do so. However, you need to make sure that you can keep all of your valuables safe so that you have a better chance at keeping them throughout the divorce.
Once of the best things that you can do before you decide to get married, is make sure that you know the person. Get to know them for a long period before you decide to take the big step into marriage. You have to be able trust so that you can feel good about marrying them. Have a long engagement so that you can see if the person changes any. If so, you may want to get out of the relationship before you decide to marry. This could be the best thing for both of you.]]></description>
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	<title>How to Help Children Through Divorce</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:28:27 -0400</pubDate>
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	<description><![CDATA[Divorce is a very hard time for everyone to deal with. It can be very hard on a person emotionally and physically as well. This is especially true for children. They have to have the proper help during this difficult time. They need to know and understand that it is not their fault and that both parents still love them very much.
Parents are going to have to work hard at putting aside their anger and hard feelings toward each other. They have to sit down and make an arrangement that will be suitable to them and to the children. This is going too much easier and less painful than having to go into court and have them decide this for you.
You have to be able to pull together with your spouse and help the children. This is the only way to help them through this hard time. If one parent decides to go against their commitment to help their child the responsible way, you should still keep your values as a parent and help them the best that you can.
You should not keep the divorce a secret from the children. You need to tell them when you make your decision and what is going to happen. Try to give them at least a little bit of notice before the parent moves out so that the child can have the time to deal with it and ask questions. Reassure the child that both parents are still going to be there for them and that nothing has changed in that sense.
Do not put blame on anyone when you are talking to your children. Do not put down the other parent in any way. It is important that the children know that they still have two dependable and trustworthy parents to take care of them. Let them know that it was a mutual decision and that you both did your best to avoid this ending.
Make your child aware that they are not going to be able to get the both of you back together. Tell them that there is nothing that they can do to make the situation go away. Also make it clear to them where they are going to live and that they can see the other parent any time they want to. You can tell them that there may be some changes in that later on, but it is not going to affect their relationship. Give them the opportunity to ask you any questions that they may have for you both.
Giving the child the right information and not too much information is important. You do not want them to feel anxious or worry about anything that is not their concern. They have to feel comfortable with the news that you told them and give them some time to adjust to the idea.]]></description>
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	<title>What is a Fault Divorce?</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:28:07 -0400</pubDate>
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	<description><![CDATA[There are many reasons for a divorce, and it may be the last choice made by many. In some cases, it can be a decision that is hard for both parties to agree on. They have tried all that they can but they cannot seem to make the marriage work. For this reason it is called a no fault divorce in the courtroom. For other divorces where one or both of the parties have done something to cause the need for divorce, it is referred to as a fault divorce.
A fault divorce may be granted when the proper grounds are there and at least one spouse asks that the divorce be granted on the grounds of fault. Not all states allow fault divorces. There are traditional reasons for fault divorces. Some of them include the following.
Cruelty to one of the spouses is another cause. This is when one spouse will inflict unnecessary emotional or physical pain on the other spouse. This is the most usual cause for divorce. Adultery is another. This is when one of the spouses has an affair on the other spouse. This is another very popular reason why people end up getting divorced with a fault decision.
Desertion can also be determined as a fault divorce. This is when one party leaves the other for a certain length of time. This usually means that one spouse moves out of the home and lives independently or with another person. They will leave the other spouse to live on their own and not want to be with that person anymore.
If a person is confined to prison for a certain number of years, this can mean grounds for divorce by the spouse that is free. They can determine that they want to end the marriage and start the necessary divorce proceedings. Another reason may be if one party has an inability to engage in sexual intercourse, as long as it was not disclosed before the marriage took place.
The reason to choose a fault divorce is because some people do not want to wait. They do not want to have a separation required by their state&rsquo;s law for fault divorce. In some states, a spouse who proves the other person is at fault, this may end up getting them a greater share of the marital property or more alimony. This is why the fault divorce is so popular these days.]]></description>
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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:27:47 -0400</pubDate>
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	<description><![CDATA[When a couple gets a legal separation, it is a lot like a divorce. It will involve the same process of filing papers with the court to start a legal action. The court will then have to make the decisions about where the children will live, debts, and assets in a divorce. At the end of the process, the parties are legally separated instead of being actually divorced. This means that they are still married but not responsible for each other and what the other party does.
A legal separation is the best thing to do in the last stages of couples not getting along. It can be a way of taking a break and finding out what each party wants. There is no reason to rush into getting divorce for some people and it is a decision that has to be well thought out just as the marriage should have been.
Sometimes when people are on a legal separation, they will try and work things out. However, there are some cases, where it will not work and the parties&rsquo; involved want to get a divorce. One year after the legal separation is granted, one of the parties can petition to convert the separation to a divorce. They can do this without further hearings and the other party cannot prevent it from happening. People will sometimes prefer the separation instead of a divorce because of their religious beliefs or for insurance purposes.
If the party then decides to get a divorce, it will terminate their marriage. In order to do that, parties involved will go to court and decide how to handle questions of the children and how to divide their marital property. Each party is going to be responsible for one half of the marital debts.
Marital property is anything that the couple bought while they were married. It does not matter whose name the property is in or who actually purchased it. Bank accounts, pensions, and stocks are marital property even if they are held in one name only. Property brought into the marriage is still marital depending on the length of the marriage and what type of property it is. The court will be as fair as it can and sometimes the parties involved will make the right choices about being fair in the divorce.
It is always a good thing when a couple can make the appropriate decisions about how things should be split up before actually going to court. Both parties should have attorneys and this will help things progress along without having to worry about any legalities. This is the best way to protect each party&rsquo;s assets and to make sure that the proceedings are fair.]]></description>
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	<title>How to Protect Your Finances for Divorce</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:26:55 -0400</pubDate>
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	<description><![CDATA[If you think that you will be ending your marriage in the near future and you are uncertain what the future will hold for you, you may want to start taking the right precautions now. You have to make sure that you are protecting your financial security for later.
Reduce unnecessary expenses as soon as you can. Meet with your spouse and agree to cancel utilities and other bills. You will probably need to have money later on and this is a way to save money. Sell off your personal property that you do not need or want anymore. You can do this now to avoid losing it later on.
Cancel all of your jointly owned credit cards. You both should agree to cancel the cards and get separate ones. You need to cancel the cards because the spouse can charge up all kinds of different charge on the cards and you will get stuck paying them back. Canceling the cards now can save you money that you will need to have later on.
You may want to separate the jointly owned bank accounts. If you have bank accounts together, you may want to divide the money first. If not, your spouse may decide to go and take care of the money on their own and leave you with nothing. If you have outstanding bills for the home, explain this to the spouse so that the arrangements can be made to pay for them. If you do open up a different bank account, do it at another bank. Do not stay with the same company.
Stop contributing to combined accounts like 401K and pension plans. Telling your place of employment usually does this. Make the necessary arrangements so that your money is not being added to this account. You have to do this until you find out what will happen to those accounts and who will benefit from them.
Keep your job or try and find one. You have to make sure that you are protecting yourself and able to raise your family. If you are not getting any income from your spouse, you will have to do something to support your monthly needs. You may want to ask your &lsquo;soon to be ex&rsquo; if they can help you financially until the divorce proceedings are over. This is only recommended if you are ending the divorce in a good way. If you are fighting over everything and not getting along, you need to contact your attorney and have them ask for you.]]></description>
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	<title>Starting Over After Divorce</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 04 Aug 2006 19:26:07 -0400</pubDate>
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	<description><![CDATA[Starting over after divorce can be overwhelming. How do you learn to date again? What steps do you take to create a social life? What can you do to start your life over and not make the same mistakes you made in the past?
Men and women lose at least half of their social network when they get divorced. Their relationships with relatives, in-laws, neighbors, work colleagues, and spousal friends all shift and change. It takes determination to start building new social connections when you are alone and starting over.
Here are Five Tips to help you start over.
1. Mourning the loss of a marriage is necessary. Following that, you need to find ways to get positive.
Therapy and counseling can help. Give yourself at least a year to mend. Eventually, there comes a point when you need to change your focus. Think about what you have always wanted to do and where you have always wanted to go. Take one specific talent and polish it. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong in your life, start looking at what you have going for you.
2. Date cautiously.
The danger in the awkward pre-dating state is that you can get into a mini-marriage (a relationship that is exclusive but not committed) before you really know the person. After one or two dates, you could start seeing a person out of habit and loneliness without thinking it through. Then, you will not be available to find the love you have always wanted. When you go out, stay open to meeting lots of people, and try not to get hooked up with just one person yet.
3. Plan your weekends.
When you are alone on the weekends, you are vulnerable. Plan ahead. Call a cousin, or your mother, father, sister, brother, uncles, aunts, or nieces and nephews. You have someone in your life you can take places with you who will not look like a date, no matter what gender they are. Always have a plan for something on the weekend.
4. Find something new to do that you love.
Nothing revitalizes our life like doing activities that we love. When you do this, you will become more attractive, and will find it easier to meet others. What have you always wanted to do and kept putting off? If you don't know where to start, pick up an adult school catalog and plan from there.
5. Visualize.
Before you go to sleep at night and before you start your day in the morning, visualize how you want your day to be. Following that, picture how you would love for your life to look all the time. What do you want to do in your work and what kind of relationships do you want around you? Picture yourself with all the love and attention you want and need.
You can build a new and wonderful life. Starting over starts with taking one step at a time. You can do it!]]></description>
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